WHAT IS A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

The 'Toxic' person is someone who engages in manipulative, controlling or abusive behaviours in relationships. It can be any person. Their behaviours and mind games are destructive to the psychological well being of another and strips them of their self-worth, confidence and sense of self.

 

Below are the 'Red Flags' of the 'Toxic Lover', however some also applies to parents, siblings, friends, work-colleagues, bosses. The toxic person is Child and Adolescent led because of their need for power and control and to punishment.

 

The Inner Mentor Guidance System provides the tools to notice and manage such subtle and overt behaviours. Below are examples of the 'RED FLAGS' ​

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•  Love-Bombing and Withdrawal/ambivalence

• Constant Criticism

• Gas lighting

• Controlling Behaviour

• Isolation

• Jealousy and Possessiveness

• Silent Treatment

• Emotional Blackmail

• Frequent Lying

• Disrespect for Boundaries

• Blame-Shifting

• Financial Control

• Public Humiliation

• ​Lack of Accountability

• Intimidation and Threats

• Constant Monitoring

• Emotional Withholding

• Invalidating Feelings

• Stonewalling

• Unrealistic Expectations

• Minimising Achievements

• Sarcasm and Passive Aggression

• Having to Walk on Eggshells

• Conditional Love

• Guilt Tripping

• Hyper-Criticism of Appearance

• Neglecting Needs

• Triangulation

• Excessive Dependency

• Score Keeping

• Weaponising Insecurities

• Forcing Unwanted Intimacy

• Making Threats During Arguments

• Creating a Power Imbalance

• Playing the Victim

• Invalidating Accomplishments and Dreams

• Physical Aggression

• Demanding Forgiveness Quickly

• Unreasonable Expectations of Loyalty

• Threatening to Reveal Secrets or Personal Information

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