Men Who Thrive: A New Coaching Space for Men

Introducing Men Who Thrive

For the past few years, I have worked with women through Women Who Thrive. I regularly see men in my therapeutic practice; however, Women Who Thrive was created because it was women who responded to my workshops, which were originally designed to tackle work-related stress. The women opened up and shared, but the men were mostly closed to what I was teaching. They did not want to share in front of other work colleagues—men and women. And so I created Women Who Thrive, focusing on working with women and it is my passion.

But something happened…

Men began reaching out, asking for help: When was I going to do a workshop for men? Wives and partners asked me too. They could see the men they love suffering in silence—really struggling. Women who had attended the workshops and coaching began asking about help for their partners. After attending the workshops, they could see more clearly the triggers, the behaviours, the anxiety, worry, and fear in their loved ones.

We don’t often talk about it, but it’s becoming alarmingly more widely known: male suicide rates are rising. Too many men are struggling behind closed doors with their identity, their purpose, stress, anxiety, shame, and the pressure of having to “hold it all together.” In the family, carrying the weight of responsibility as ‘provider,’ and what they believe they ‘should’ be doing. Old traditional beliefs about men’s and women’s roles are still part of their DNA. And society is demanding something different from them creating confusion, loss of self-worth and self-belief.

In my therapeutic work, I’ve seen men from the factory floor to the director’s chair carrying unbearable weight: work stress, bullying, fear-driven environments. Hiding worry and shame, believing they are “failing” as the provider. Withdrawing from their families, creating distance in relationships. Struggling with the physical impacts of stress—loss of libido, erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety. Turning to alcohol, drugs, porn, or gambling as a way to cope. Putting on a brave face at work, terrified anyone might find out.

Through my years as a therapist, I saw how these struggles often stem from much deeper roots. In the beginning, I developed the Inner Mentor Guidance System to help men understand what was happening to them—how their past was still impacting them. To help them recognise their triggers, heal the past, change their beliefs about themselves, and learn new ways to cope with stress, perfectionism, procrastination, and imposter syndrome. I’ve taught men practical tools to manage anxiety, panic attacks, and negative thoughts—and, importantly, how to communicate openly with their partners.

And there’s a personal reason too. My father was one of those men. He suffered in silence—his first heart attack at 34, later a triple bypass, and then Parkinson’s that destroyed him. He was a man’s man who carried the weight but never shared the burden. I know too well the cost of silence.

This is why I’ve created Men Who Thrive Coaching. Because men deserve a safe space too. Because men deserve to thrive. Because they have emotions, fears, worries, anxieties, pain, trauma, heartbreak, and grief—just as women do. The problem is they mask it, cover it up, hide it… until sometimes it’s too late.

Women Who Thrive will always remain at the heart of my work—Men Who Thrive simply extends this mission, because when men heal, the women and families who love them also thrive.

For my lovely dad, who I miss so much. For the men who deserve peace. And for the women who worry so deeply about their loved ones. I give you Men Who Thrive.